Psychoanalytic psychotherapy and therapy services in London
I have walked the measured steps,
softened my voice, made myself small,
a shadow slipping through the world’s great machine—
O! How they love me when I am quiet!
When my hands are folded, when my anger is tucked away,
when I laugh at the right time, nod in the right places.
There was a time when education was seen as a gateway to self-improvement, a mark of aspiration, and even something admirable. To be thoughtful, well-read, and informed was considered a virtue. Today, however, a troubling shift has occurred. Being intellectual or well-informed is no longer “cool” in certain spaces, especially in the fast-moving, hyper-reactive world of social media. Instead, we are witnessing the rise of an alarming anti-intellectual culture, where wit is mistaken for wisdom, confidence trumps knowledge, and memes or tweets are seen as sufficient substitutes for careful thought.
Therapy is, by its nature, an intimate and private encounter. It is one of the last refuges from the noise of the world. People come to therapy not to hear their therapist’s worldview but to understand their own. The patient’s pain, conflict, or confusion must take center stage. Even the most well-meaning political commentary from a therapist risks turning therapy into something didactic or morale. It may subtly push a patient toward compliance with the therapist’s values, rather than helping them excavate and inhabit their own. For some practitioners, this traditional boundary is sacrosanct: it ensures that the work remains rooted in the patient’s inner life, not in the fleeting urgencies of external events.
The rise of AI therapy marks a fascinating and bittersweet development in the way we approach mental health. These tools, often driven by algorithms, chat interfaces, and programmed empathy, offer something profoundly useful: accessibility. For many, the barriers to traditional therapy—cost, availability, or even the intimidating nature of opening up to another human—are significantly reduced. […]
The Christmas Fairy’s Curse Every December, many of us are involuntarily cast as the Christmas Fairy. It’s a role that feels both magical and oppressive, full of glittering promise yet weighed down by thankless effort. You’re the one who orchestrates the tree, the gifts, the meals, the joy. It’s your quiet labor that keeps the […]
In the 21st century, we are living through an unprecedented explosion of labels. A seemingly boundless array of diagnostic identities now saturates the cultural landscape, from anxiety disorders to neurodivergence. Among these, ADHD—Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder—has emerged as a particularly seductive label, not merely as a medical diagnosis but as a lifestyle, a cultural movement, […]
At the heart of the Pelicot rape trial is not just a story of injustice, but one of extraordinary courage. The woman at the center of this case—unshaken by the weight of public scrutiny—made a choice that few could endure: she allowed the hearing to be public. In doing so, she shattered the veil of silence that has long protected men accused of such crimes, refusing to let them operate in the shadows of a society that often shields them.
Ive had a period of time off work and have been binge watching a lot of TV, hence another review from a therapy perspective. Apple TV’s drama Disclaimer, directed by Alfonso Cuarón and starring Cate Blanchett and Kevin Kline, dives into a labyrinthine psychological landscape that plays upon memory, guilt, and the stories we tell […]
Who alone suffers, suffers most in the mind. These are the words of King Lear, from Shakespeare and are deeply relevant to the show Mr Loverman on the BBC. Mr Loverman, adapted from Bernardine Evaristo’s 2013 novel, has quickly garnered attention for its nuanced exploration of race, sexuality, and intergenerational cultural identity. Set against the […]
In our minds, the figure of a bully is often crude and obvious—someone who pushes their way through life with overt aggression, unmistakably hostile and unkind. But reality often paints a more complex, troubling picture. Many bullies don’t operate in this glaringly visible way. Instead, they slip into the background, camouflaging their manipulations and emotional […]